“Why Are You Afraid?” — Faith in the Middle of the Storm

By Oluwaseyi Ige

One of the songs that does it for me every time is In My Boat by Folabi Nuel.

He touches something quietly real. Fear and faith’s response.

There’s a line that always lands:

“Even when I’m surrounded by the storm, I will not be moved… ’cause You are with me… every storm will cease, I got You in my boat.”

It sounds simple, but it carries weight. He draws from that powerful Gospel scene where Jesus is in the boat with His disciples, and everything still goes wild around them.

It is the kind of story we like. Good over evil. Calm after chaos.

But look closely.

The storm still came.
The waves still rose.
The fear was still real.

All of that happened despite who was in the boat.

And if we are honest, we feel that way sometimes, when life’s many cares becomes overwhelming.

David had such difficult moments. He put down his thoughts.
Psalm 23 verse 4 says:
“Though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil…”

Notice what it does not promise.
It does not promise the absence of valleys.
It does not remove the shadows.
It does not cancel the danger.

It acknowledges the reality of it.
But it introduces something stronger.

Presence.
“For You are with me.”

I remember a flight back to Lagos some years ago. It was a dark and rainy night along the coast of West Africa. Just after takeoff, the pilot came on and calmly announced that the weather ahead would be rough. No panic in his voice. Just information.

But inside the cabin, it was a different story.
Every small shake of the aircraft felt exaggerated. Every drop made my heart race faster. You could almost feel the tension in the silence. I was scared. Not slightly uncomfortable. Properly afraid. I thought over my life to that point many times.

What made the difference in that moment was not what I felt, but what the pilot knew.

While passengers panicked, the pilot remained steady. Not because the turbulence was not real, but because he understood something we did not. The aircraft was designed for that kind of weather. It was built to withstand pressure. He had flown through worse and knew the plane would not fall apart mid-air.

Same storm. Different response.
Not because one group was in a safer place, but because one had deeper understanding.

That is exactly what plays out in Mark 4.

Jesus is in a boat with His disciples. Some of them are experienced fishermen. They know water. They understand storms.

Then a storm rises.
Not a mild one. A violent one. Waves begin to fill the boat. The situation becomes serious enough that survival is no longer guaranteed.

And in the middle of all that, Jesus is asleep.

The disciples panic.

“Teacher, don’t you care if we drown?”

It’s honest. Emotional. Real.

Jesus wakes up, speaks to the storm, and everything becomes calm.

Then He turns to them and asks:

“Why are you afraid?”

The storm was real.
Just like the turbulence on that flight was real. Just like many situations and scenarios we pass through daily.

But the issue was not the storm.
It was perspective.
Just as I was panicking on that flight, the disciples saw a situation that could end them.

Jesus saw a situation already under His authority.

This is not the only time Scripture shows this pattern.

In Exodus 14, the Israelites stand before the Red Sea with the Egyptians behind them. No escape. No strategy. Just fear.

Moses tells them, “Do not be afraid. Stand firm and you will see the deliverance of the Lord.”

When the scriptures say, “Fear not”, be sure that something scary is either happening or will happen.

I’m exodus 14, the sea did not disappear.
But God made a way through it.

Jonathan David Helser and Melissa Helser sang “You split the sea so I could walk right through it…”
That is not just a lyric. It is history.

In Daniel 3, three Hebrew men stand before a burning furnace. The fire is real. The threat is real. But their response is different.

“Our God is able to deliver us… but even if He does not, we will not bow.”

That is faith.

Not the absence of danger, but confidence in God despite it.

The disciples allowed the storm to define their reality.

Jesus responded from a deeper awareness.
He knew something they had not yet grasped.
He was in the boat.
That is what Psalm 23 is anchoring.

“I will fear no evil, for You are with me.”

Not because the valley disappears.
But because God is present in it.
Faith is often misunderstood.

Faith is not the absence of fear.
Faith is the decision to trust God in the presence of fear.
It is choosing to move when everything in you wants to retreat.
It is choosing to believe what God has said over what you currently see.

Isaiah 43:2 says, “When you pass through the waters, I will be with you… when you walk through the fire, you will not be burned.”

Not if.
When. That means it will eventually happen. What’s then important is how you handle the situation.
Would you allow fear, or you’ll be conscious of who is with you?

So Jesus’ question still stands.
“Why are you afraid?”
Not to dismiss your feelings.
But to redirect your focus.

What are you afraid of right now?

The uncertainty?
The outcome?
The risk?
Your health?
The future?

Now ask yourself.
Is the fear coming from the situation alone?
Or from forgetting what God has already proven?

Because just like that pilot understood the aircraft, God understands the path you are on.
He knows what you are built to withstand.
He knows where this journey leads.
He knows you will land.

Borrow a line from the song, No Longer Slaves
“I’m no longer a slave to fear…”

That is not a denial of reality.
It is a declaration of identity.
You are a child of God.
And that changes how you respond.

Walk through the valley.
Face the storm.
Move forward anyway.
Because His presence does not remove the storm.
But it gives you the confidence to go through it.
And that confidence is faith.
And that’s all you need.

Oluwaseyi Ige is a media consultant, communication strategist, and the Chief Operating Officer of
Jabbok Media Services.
An associate pastor at TBC Kubwa and a youth missionary, he previously served as the Media and Communications Coordinator
for Youth for Christ (YFC) Nigeria. He is the founder of Quantum of Grace, an outreach ministry, and the author of
Still Becoming and
Digital Loneliness.
His latest work, Becoming You, is a personal guide helping the next generation navigate the identity fight
and build a life of impact.

Becoming You (The Identity Fight)

I wrote this book for my second son on his thirteenth birthday. This is the first chapter of the book.

The Identity Fight
The Most Important Fight of Your Life


Son, I want you to get into a fight. Yes. Fight. I know you know I always ask you to seek peaceful resolutions to conflics, and even report your brother to me if he offends you so I can mediate. But at this point, I want you to fight.


Because this is about your life. This is the most importanr fight you’ll do. It is not John Cena against Brock Lesnar or Anthony Joshua against Oleksandr Usyk. It is far more important than that.
Let me explain the reason.

There is something that begins to wake up in a young man when he becomes a teenager. It is not loud at first. It does not announce itself with noise or drama. It is subtle. It grows quietly. It follows you into every room. It sits with you in class. It walks beside you on the field. It stands next to you when your friends are laughing.
It whispers:
See me.
Recognize me.
Notice me.


Nobody wants to be invisible. Nobody wants to feel overlooked. Nobody wants to feel like their presence does not matter.
Nobody wants to be a fly on the wall.
Flies are tiny creatures that cling to vertical surfaces. They have compound eyes that see almost 360 degrees. In a room, you usually ignore a fly until it starts buzzing in your ear or tries to perch its cholera infested proboscis into your food. Until then, it exists but it does not matter to anyone.
To be a fly on the wall means to be an unnoticed observer. You are present in a situation, but you are not participating, and the people involved have no idea you are watching or listening.


Son, I want you to understand something clearly. That desire to matter is normal. That longing to be seen is natural. It is part of growing up. It is part of becoming aware that you are an individual with thoughts, strength, gifts, and dreams.
You were not created to disappear into the background of your own life.
But here is where the danger lies.


The danger begins when the desire to be noticed becomes stronger than the desire to become.
When you live only to be noticed, you become a slave to whoever is watching. You begin to adjust your behavior depending on who is in the room. You measure your words by the reactions they produce. You start to perform. You start to wear masks. You start to trade your true self for a moment of attention.
And attention is a hungry master. It never says enough. What gets applause today becomes ordinary tomorrow. So you feel pressure to do more. Say more. Show more. Impress more. Sometimes you may even be tempted to expose more than you should just to remain visible.
One day, if you are not careful, you may look in the mirror and realize you do not recognize the person staring back at you.


That is the identity fight.
It is the fight between who you truly are and who the world rewards.
This is the fight I want you to fight. I will be your coach, I’ll shout from your corner, but you have to step in the right and win this fight.

The Truth of Your Worth
In this stage of your life, people will call you things. Some will praise you loudly. Some will misunderstand you loudly. Some will reduce you to one trait and act as though that is all you are.
You may be called the athlete.
The intelligent one.
The quiet one.
The funny one.
The difficult one.
The disappointment.
Labels are convenient for people. They help others categorize you quickly so they do not have to take time to truly know you. But you are not a category. You are not a summary. You are not a single story.


Your worth is not in what you are called.
Your worth is not in how you are perceived by your friends.
Your worth is not in what your teachers say.
Your worth is not even in how many people follow you on a screen.


Think of a crisp, new one hundred dollar bill. It is valuable because of what it is, not where it has been. If I take that bill, drop it in the dirt, step on it with my boots, and crumple it into a tiny, ugly ball, does it lose its value?
No.
If I hold it up, everyone still wants it. Why? Because the dirt and the crushing did not change its identity. Its value was set at the Mint the moment it was created.


Your worth is like that. It is deeper than opinions. It is deeper than trends. It is far deeper than popularity. It was set by your Creator long before anyone formed an opinion about you.


Never measure the quality of your soul by the volume of applause around you.
The Scripture says in First Samuel 16 verse 7, For the Lord seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart.


People look at appearance.
God looks at heart.
People look at performance.
God looks at posture.
People look at image.
God looks at integrity.
Build what heaven measures.


There will be seasons when you feel overlooked. There will be moments when someone else is celebrated while you are ignored. In those moments, remember this truth: visibility is not the same as value. Some of the most valuable things in life are hidden. Roots are hidden. Foundations are hidden. Character is often hidden. The powerful V8 engine in our car is hidden under the hood, but you can hear it roar when I press the throttle. You feel its power in the back seat where you are seated anytime the car accelerates forward. You don’t have to see it to enjoy it.
Hidden does not mean unimportant.

Fight for the Ideal
Because the world does not understand your true value, it will tempt you to lower your standards. It will tell you to blend in. It will tell you to shrink. It will tell you to adjust your values so you can belong.
It will whisper that everyone is doing it.
It will say that you are taking life too seriously.
It will suggest that your convictions are outdated.
Do not surrender.
You must fight for the ideal. Always.


This is the most important fight of your life. It is the refusal to cower in shame for standing alone. It is the courage to say no when yes would make you popular. It is the strength to walk away when staying would make you accepted.


A young man who stands for something may stand alone for a while, but he will never stand small.
In 2014, a man arrived in Lagos from Liberia carrying the Ebola virus, one of the deadliest diseases in the world. He was a high-profile diplomat who insisted on leaving the hospital to attend a conference. He had the support of powerful people, and there was immense pressure on the hospital staff to let him go.
Dr. Adadevoh was the physician in charge. She stood alone in that hospital room and refused to let him leave. She was threatened and pressured, but she knew that if this man stepped out into the crowded streets of Lagos, millions of people would be at risk.
She did not have a crowd cheering for her. In that moment, she was standing alone against the “Notice Me” power of a diplomat and the weight of a terrifying situation. She chose to stand for the ideal of protecting her country rather than the comfort of following orders.
Because of her courage, the virus was contained. She saved Nigeria from a catastrophe that could have claimed countless lives. Tragically, she contracted the virus herself and passed away, but her name is now etched in history. She stood alone in a hospital ward, but she will never stand small in the hearts of Nigerians. She proved that one person’s integrity can be the shield for an entire nation.


Consider the life of Chinua Achebe. He was a man of immense talent, but more importantly, he was a man of strong identity. Twice, the Nigerian government attempted to honor him with national awards. Twice, he declined. He did not need validation from a system he believed was failing his people. His integrity mattered more than recognition.
He chose conviction over convenience.
He chose principle over praise.
That is identity in action.


Son, your generation is surrounded by noise. Everyone has a platform. Everyone has an opinion. Everyone has a highlight reel. You only need to open tiktok and see what folks are putting out there. In such a world, quiet strength will look strange. Deep conviction will look unusual. Patience will look weak.
But it is not weak.
It is powerful.
You are not called to echo every trend. You are called to embody truth. And truth often stands quietly before it stands publicly.

Defeating the Label Makers
There are four common ways people will try to define you.
First, their expectations.
They may want you to become something that makes them proud or comfortable. Sometimes expectations are loving. Sometimes they are controlling. Learn the difference.
Second, their fears.
They may tell you that something cannot be done simply because they were afraid to try. Their limits are not your limits.
Third, their limitations.
They will project their ceilings onto your sky. Because they stopped dreaming, they may suggest that dreaming is foolish. Do not inherit small thinking.
Fourth, their projections.
They may see their own flaws in you and try to name you by them. If they struggled with discipline, they may accuse you of laziness. If they battled insecurity, they may shrink your confidence.
People often speak from their wounds.


You must fight for your identity.
But hear me clearly. You do not fight with anger. You do not fight with rebellion. You do not fight with disrespect.
You fight with clarity.
Clarity about who you are.
Clarity about who you are becoming.
Clarity about whose voice carries the most authority in your life.
Clarity is quiet confidence. It does not shout. It does not argue endlessly. It simply stands.
It is in the doing, in trying, in stretching yourself, in failing and rising again, that you grow into your identity. Identity is not discovered in comfort. It is shaped in courage. Every challenge is an opportunity to define yourself by your response.


Do not be afraid to disappoint people when their expectations are not aligned with your purpose.
Galatians 1 verse 10 asks, For do I now persuade men, or God? or do I seek to please men? for if I yet pleased men, I should not be the servant of Christ.
You cannot serve applause and purpose at the same time.
At some point, you must decide which one matters more.

The Goal Is to Become
Your fight for identity is not a fight to be famous. It is a fight to be real.
Fame is external.
Reality is internal.
Fame depends on who knows you.
Reality depends on whether you know yourself.
When you focus on becoming the man God designed you to be, you stop chasing the spotlight and start pursuing the light.
If you become light, people will see you eventually. Not because you demanded attention, but because authenticity cannot remain hidden forever.
Shining does not mean perfection. It means consistency. It means integrity. It means that who you are in private matches who you are in public.
That kind of man is rare.
That kind of man is trusted.
That kind of man influences without forcing it.


Son, I do not want you to be impressive. I want you to be grounded. I do not want you to chase platforms. I want you to build pillars. Platforms rise quickly and fall loudly. Pillars are slow, steady, and strong.
You are not in a race to be noticed. You are in a journey to become.


Win that fight.

Oluwaseyi Ige is a media consultant, communication strategist, and the Chief Operating Officer of Jabbok Media Services. An associate pastor at TBC Kubwa and a youth missionary, he previously served as the Media and Communications Coordinator for Youth for Christ (YFC) Nigeria. He is the founder of Quantum of Grace, an outreach ministry, and the author of Still Becoming and Digital Loneliness. His latest work, Becoming You, is a personal guide helping the next generation navigate the identity fight and build a life of impact.

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